Muslim, gay and suicidal

When reconciling being gay with faith all I can say is this: I read the Qur’an and the Bible when I was trying to come to terms with my sexual orientation 24 years ago

TRUE LIFE: My mental health illness made me a stronger person

“No matter how much I resisted, my hands were tied and it infected my entire world”


Author: Ian Howley

Mental health and the gay community

Mental health is a topic people still find difficult to discuss, even with their closest circle of friends. If you ask us gays, we are all fabulous. “Depressed, me? Struggling? Never!” Which is ironic, considering the staggering amount of data proving otherwise.


Author: Ian Howley

TRUE LIFE: My battle with food, body image and self worth

Body image is something I’ve always struggled with. Whether or not that’s the acceptance of others or just accepting myself. But spending 18 years of my life overweight might be something to do with that.


Author: Ian Howley

Is this the beginning of the end for HIV?

The end of year reviews of 2016 were pretty damning. Bowie, Prince and George Michael led a long list of musical heroes who left us....

What are the signs of depression?

Here's what to look out for.

5 ways to improve your mental health

How important is it to look after your mental health? Very, actually. All too often gay men spend far more time working on our abs than our mental health.


Author: Ian Howley

'Just Man Up' - the stigma of silence is killing us

I have struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts on and off for my entire adult life.

How to build your confidence

Are you as socially and sexually confident as you’d like? Not many gay men would answer “yes’’ to that question, but confidence is something we all need.


Author: Ian Howley


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