I cannot count the number of times a white gay man has messaged me on apps with openers like “I’d like to drain your big black cock” – which makes my skin shudder.
I contemplated the title of this issue for a long time. I considered making it a question: ‘Is the gay community racist?’.
It’s a sad fact that elements of the gay community are racist. Some are overtly racist directly through their language and actions, while there are others who don’t even recognise that they are racist.
Report after report and survey after survey demonstrates that for BAME people in LGBTQ communities racism is a near universal experience...very rarely do these reports answer more difficult questions about the nature of this racism.
The illusion of inclusion is how I would describe the LGBT community in Britain. The gay community loves to pay lip service to being accepting of everyone...
If you’re an Asian guy like me then not a week, or often a day, goes by when I don’t have to endure some form of casual racism.
Is there racism in the gay community? Yes, because hatred and fear and loathing, spite and routine, irrationality and misoneism; these things infect everywhere.
The truth is that you don’t have to be subjected to discrimination that many times along the road before you begin to expect it at every turn.
FS surveyed over 1,000 gay men about open relationships. Of those who told us they are in an open relationships, 75% said they have rules in place. Many said having rules helps their relationship.
In a phenomenon that seems to be particular to the gay community, a lot of guys end up with a friend or two who they used to go out with. Some still go on holiday together. But how close a friend can your ex really be?
An interview with my HIV-negative husband.
When reconciling being gay with faith all I can say is this: I read the Qur’an and the Bible when I was trying to come to terms with my sexual orientation 24 years ago